Sex and Relationships with Mikaya Heart ? DangerousLee.Biz

In my last post I discussed the Gspot. Now let?s talk about ejaculation. Some women naturally seem to ejaculate when they are aroused, sometimes without even knowing they are doing it, others never ejaculate, and others learn to do it, usually as a result of different kinds of sexual experimentation. Very little research has been done on this subject, but there was a human sexuality student who collected ejaculate from a variety of women, and tested its chemical composition. He found it be very similar to male ejaculate, without the semen. Scientists say that the Gspot in women develops from the same fetal tissue from which the testes grow in men. So it?s clearly a very normal sexual response. Let me stress again, however, there is nothing wrong with you if you don?t do it, and you can still have incredible sex. As with all our sexual responses, it is related to cultural influences: I heard of a tribe in Africa where the women were not considered eligible for marriage until they could spray the wall, and they were taught how to do that by the older women in the tribe.

Not everyone loves it, though. One woman I spoke with, who started ejaculating in her twenties, told me that now she is in her thirties she would prefer not to be soaking the bed every time she has sex?but it doens?t seem to be something she can prevent any more. People do report that there is sometimes a phenomenal amount of fluid. It is frequently more of a dribble or a flood that it is an actual spray. And it is not always related to specific Gspot stimulation.

Interestingly, many women report that it is not related to orgasm, or at least not to orgasm as most of us in Western culture define the word. As I have said before, if we talked about orgasm as much as I think we ?should,? we would have twenty different words for it, and perhaps one of those words would describe what it feels like for a woman to ejaculate. The use of the word orgasm usually refers to a sensation that is based on clitoral stimulation, and it arises out of a holding of the energy, through initially tensing the body, rather than a relaxing and letting go, which is more commonly reported by women when they are having what might be called a vaginal orgasm, which may be accompanied by ejaculation. But please note all the qualifying words I have used in the above sentence. As I discovered from my research for The Ultimate Guide to Orgasm for Women, the variation in experience of sexual arousal and orgasm is vast.

As those of you who read the comments on my last post will know, men are sometimes amazed at the power of women?s arousal. Many people, myself included, have said they are overawed by women who really allow themselves to embrace their sexual power, and a number of men have told me that they feel women?s arousal goes far deeper than than theirs does, whether in relation to ejaculation or to sex in general. Insecure men are easily frightened by this, which is very sad?and no doubt related to the reason why women?s power has been belittled over the centuries.

The experience of orgasm doesn?t have to be related to sexual excitement. One of the women I interviewed reported that at the age of fifteen she was watching a horse race. She found it very exciting and, at the moment when the horses crossed the finish line, she felt an unusual sensation in her belly and a flooding down her legs. She had had her first experience of orgasm, and it was an ejaculatory orgasm. She is one of those unusual women who doesn?t like to have her clitoris touched, but comes very powerfully from the right kind of arousal, whether created by a horse race or by genital stimulation!

Mikaya Heart is an award winning author and a coach in the art of being fully alive. www.mikayaheart.org

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